Copyright 2014 Roberta Gallagher I have been there both in my 50’s and 60’s and totally get what the struggles of dating are as we age. My Grandma became a widow at 66. She said “Robertala* (my attempt at a Yiddish accent) your heart never gets old.” She fell madly in love with Louis at 68. Grandpa was a great man. I’m guessing this was an arranged match. Grandma was beautiful but not so bright and Grandpa was super smart and not so beautiful. Louie was a charmer and we all

A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. ~Richard Bach If this is true, why do so many of us settle for anythin

© 2013 by guest blogger Frieda L. Ferrick, LMFT The holidays can bring up loss right in your face especially if you newly are experiencing the death of a spouse or partner. There it is, carols, lights, presents, drinks and extravagant foods, and there you are sad, lonely, upset and not really wanting or ready to be in the holiday spirit. So what can you do? Are you allowed to take care of yourself during this time of year without feeling that you are bringing everyone else do

I remember how I felt the first holiday after my divorce. My children were 5 and 6. Their Dad had remarried and they were expecting a child. I could not stand the idea of being excluded from a family circle. I love the holiday season and still do. Even though the marriage was not a proper match, at least I had a feeling of belonging. I anticipated the pain of feeling disconnected. What to do? Step 1- Acceptance Rather than grab onto the next guy who came along I knew I needed

I am a relationship expert and yet I have been married 4 times. I gave up a marriage that could have been workable if only I was not so tunnel visioned. If only, is a very sad phrase. All I was aware of at the time was my need to get out to explore what else was out there. It is embarrassing to admit to such superficiality, but there it is. Now some people can learn from other people’s mistakes. Some learn only from their own. I share my thoughts with you after almost 40 year

Copyright 2013 Roberta Gallagher Recycling is the current rage. If you are divorced or widowed at 50 or over, fear not. One person’s trash is another’s treasure. Your treasure may be just around the corner. A radical approach to dating at this time of life is to enjoy the process (most of the time). I am speaking from my personal experience and not from a theory of positive thinking. 1. Kill the myths: Though there is a trend for men to look for women who are younger — even s

Copyright 2013 Roberta Gallagher A month or more ago a 37 year old man living near Orlando, Florida went to bed early and the earth opened and swallowed him up (technical name “Sinkhole”). This is an ironic and dramatic end to a rather ordinary life. We cannot be safer than in our own beds. Pull the covers over your head to hide from the events we cannot control. What I can safely say is that control is an illusion. It is comforting to make plans and have goals so long as we